You don't need to tell them right now. It would only objectify them. I've been that person in relationships, the one someone pursued and only once things got hot and heavy did they reveal that "oh yeah, by the way, they preferred fat women." and it made me feel like crap.
If you're going out with this person because of their body, you need to let them go so they can find someone who values them for who they are with or without it. If you admire them as a whole person, this doesn't yet need to be introduced, or if you are going to, NEVER in a way that centers them as the object of the kink. You're just making it about you and your desires at that point.
Make it a conversation and let them answer first. Tell them how you find that specific person attractive, ask them what they like, what if any kinks they have if they are ready to disclose it, etc. It's just like literally any other relationship. Hanging it up on being FA diminishes it and limits you both.
If you're going out with this person because of their body, you need to let them go so they can find someone who values them for who they are with or without it. If you admire them as a whole person, this doesn't yet need to be introduced, or if you are going to, NEVER in a way that centers them as the object of the kink. You're just making it about you and your desires at that point.
Make it a conversation and let them answer first. Tell them how you find that specific person attractive, ask them what they like, what if any kinks they have if they are ready to disclose it, etc. It's just like literally any other relationship. Hanging it up on being FA diminishes it and limits you both.
3 years